Week 3: Healthy Boundaries

Drawing The Line With Love

Welcome to Week 3! Healthy boundaries are, generally speaking, something we all struggle with. We want to be helpful, so we let our boundaries become porous. But boundaries aren't walls to keep people out—they are the gates that keep you safe. Especially with teens (believe me, I know!), clear boundaries actually create a sense of security for everyone.

The Lesson: Spot the Need, Honor the Line

If you’re feeling resentful, you probably have a boundary leak. This week, we learn to spot the "resentment red flags" and practice the scripts to fix them. You don't need to over-explain. "That doesn't work for me" is a complete thought. We’re teaching you how to draw the line and, more importantly, how to honor it without the guilt.

Lesson WOrksheets

Take some time to work through the following worksheets. These are tools to help you in the process of regaining your autonomy. Don't let them hang over your head or stress you out, just do them when you're ready.

The Boundary Blueprint: Practice your scripts for family, friends, and work.

The Resentment Map: Find the leak, fix the leak.

The Boundary Autopsy: How to analyze a boundary "fail" without judgment.

Your Weekly Read

This week's book is Set Boundaries, Find Peace: a Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, by Nedra Glover Tawwab.

An instant New York Times bestseller, this book will help you to speak up for what you need in order to experience the freedom of being yourself (without the guilt).
"Healthy boundaries. We all know we should have them--in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do "healthy boundaries" really mean--and how can we successfully express our needs, say "no," and be assertive without offending others?"

Your Weekly Pod

This week's pod is The Terri Cole Show. Have you heard of her? Terri is a licensed Psychotherapist, transformation coach and expert at turning Fear into Freedom. Read below to see how Terri describes this episode.

"When you say "no" to someone, do you often feel immense guilt afterward?

Or do you second-guess your boundaries after setting them?

I have seen a lot of my therapy clients sacrifice their boundaries due to guilt. But letting guilt sabotage our efforts to have healthy boundaries is a one-way ticket to Bitter Town.

Boundaries are meant to protect ourselves and our relationships. They deepen our connections. Yet, many of us still feel guilty for having and enforcing boundaries.

This episode is about deepening our understanding of post-boundary setting guilt. I talk about what you can do to combat it, how to tell if it is actually guilt you are feeling, and when feeling guilty may be appropriate."

Your Weekly Jam

Enjoy this playlist designed just for you!

The vibe of this week's playlist is "firm & steady" and the goal is strengthening the "No" and protecting your peace.